When you’ve been together for a while, it’s natural to begin thinking about marriage with your partner. While the thought of it is all exciting at the beginning, when you’ve been together a while, your feelings will start to die down. You won’t get butterflies over them forever! It’s important that you don’t get complacent once the butterflies have disappeared. You need to keep the spark alive if you’re planning on marrying your partner. If you and your partner can check the following statements off, marrying them is probably a good idea. ( Image by Silvia Sala)
The Good Times Outweigh the Bad Times
When you look back on your relationship with your partner, what sort of memories do you have? If you’re going to marry your partner, the good times should outweigh the bad times significantly. You should be able to come up with all kinds of good times over bad times. Let’s say at least 75% of the relationship should be happy memories. If you can’t honestly say it is, then marrying them might not be such a good idea. Sometimes we choose to brush the negative under the rug, but for the long haul, it’s important your relationship is more of a positive in your life.
You Can Resolve Issues Quickly and By Compromising
We all have issues in our relationships, but overcoming them quickly is important. Usually, you’ll overcome an issue by compromising. If you and your partner are good at compromising, coming up with solutions that suit you both, this is a good sign. You don’t want to over-compromise yourself, but being willing to look at both sides of an issue or argument, and understanding your partner’s perspective can be really helpful in finding a happy solution that works for you both.
There’s No Hidden Resentment
When you’ve been with a partner for a long time, you may have a little resentment there from things that have happened in the past. It’s totally normal. We all make mistakes, and it can be hard to forget about them just like that. However, you can’t keep bringing these mistakes up every time you and your partner have an argument. If your resentment rears its ugly head each time you disagree on something, you need to work on it. You need to learn to let go of the resentment. The key to doing so, is true forgiveness. If you can’t, it might be time to let go of the relationship.
You Both Work to Keep the Relationship Alive
When you’ve been together a certain amount of time, you both need to work to keep the relationship alive. You both need to find new things to do that excite you, spend quality time together, and avoid getting complacent. This is the only way you’ll have a happy marriage. You don’t get married and automatically live happily ever after. A successful happy marriage takes conscious effort from both partners to make it the best it can be, every day. Once you know you are both in it for the long haul, it might be time to start hunting for Verragio wedding rings.
You Agree on the Big Stuff
One of the biggest things a couple needs to agree on is kids. If one wants 3 kids and the other doesn’t want any, this is something you’re going to need to talk about before you decide to get married. If neither of you will budge, it could be a sign that the relationship is doomed.
You should have a pretty good idea whether it’s a good idea for you to marry your partner or not. Can you work on your issues before marriage? Or is it better if you let the relationship go?