Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and you must be searching every nook and cranny for a perfect Valentine gift for her. You might want to make her laugh, see her smiling, going through the same surge of emotions as you are because you are completely and utterly in love with her. (Image Credit: Pixabay)
If she is ‘The One’ for you, you might be considering proposing marriage to her on this special day of love. You must be searching your soul inside and out to find a perfect way to enunciate your love and make her yours forever! Just hold that thought and take a step back and think about the below enlisted things you need to go through thoroughly, before proceeding for the big act. After all, your love should last forever!!
Make Sure Your Feelings Are Reciprocated
Before start plotting the ways to propose, make sure, she is on the same page as you are in the relationship. Read her body language, try to slip-in the topic of marriage casually in conversations and notice her reaction because if she is not ready for the big commitment, all the efforts will go in vain.
Have You Met Her Family?
It has been said that when two people get married, their families get married too and this is particularly true in India. You should have met her family by now and be comfortable around them too. You and her family should develop a mutual liking for each other to make married life easier. In case, you have not met any member of her family yet, it’s time to take the step first. This is vital to achieve personal success in your interpersonal marriage familial relationships.
Know Her Priorities
Is marriage even on her mind? Is she a money minded person? What is her take on having kids and when? These might look like the questions which shouldn’t ever bother a couple but the reality is, they do. You should have ‘the talk’ about her to know her priorities in life and if they align with yours. Make sure you share the same faith, and believe in God, wanting to serve and worship Him together. After wedding, having the fight about who comes first; faith, work, friends or family, might get messy and ugly. Also, you might not want to delve right away into the baby talk after wedding but she might not share the same notion.
Does she trust you? Not with ‘choosing the right restaurants to dine out’ kind of trust but trusting you with her intimate secrets is the real question here. Think hard, if you know her inside and out. If you do, go ahead and pop that question but if not, try to have more personal conversations with her to know her even well and to be closer to her heart.
Are You Willing To Give Her Personal Space?
You might be able to share all your passwords with her right away but she may not. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t trust her or she doesn’t loves you but it says that every person takes her own time and personal space before opening up to someone. You might not be possessing passwords to her emails and Facebook accounts even after wedding but giving a personal space to a girl is the key to a happy married life. It will make her love and respect you even more!
Modern or Traditional?
Nothing is wrong with either of that but being the like minds makes life easier. If she is of different mindset than you but you too are getting along with each other well, then you two are a match made in heaven and it should be made on earth too.
What Are Her Life Goals?
Answer to this question can tell a lot about a person. So before you get down on one knee, take a step back and talk about what goals she has set about the future. Romance always looks like a fairy tale but the reality is that you both have to go through some thick and thins and having similar goals makes it relatively easier to make your marriage work.
If your girlfriend stands out in all these 7 questions, then go ahead, make those wedding bells ring and no occasion is better to start with than the beloved Valentine’s Day.